Sunday, December 25, 2005

Christmas: Happy and Sad

Christmas in the Philippines is one of the big events before each year ends. For me there were a lot of happy and sad moments about my Christmas this year.

Reasons to be happy&thankful:

  1. Won a stand fan during our company Christmas party.
  2. Promoted as a manager with a business firm (my sideline, for more info email me hehehe).
  3. We had our performance bonus.
  4. Got a new headset with mic for my pc at home.
  5. Able to attend the "misa de galo".
  6. Still able to manage time for work, business, sports and fun.
  7. Lucky number 10 rank at cdoblogger.
  8. Received gifts that are very useful (others were instrument for me to have what I have always wanted even before I can include them in my prayers).
  9. Spent the holiday with the whole family, my parents bro&sis, niece and nephews!
  10. Most of all had good health.

Still sad, why?

  1. Missed the company Christmas party (woke up 4:30AM for the mass then headed for badminton at 6AM, then hurried to the office at 9AM for router configuration workshop which was supposed to be an 8AM-5pm seminar but have to work at 2-10pm---decided not to go to the party since the venue was 30minutes away from our office, so I can sleep longer and be able to attend mass at dawn the next day).
  2. Was not able to mail Christmas cards (or made a phone call or buy gifts for my "inaanak"-godchildren) for my friends abroad because I have very hectic schedule this month ( vacation leave were all used up and no one is available for swapping of schedules anymore---OT tendencies).
  3. Can't use my headset at home (my 2 year old niece is simply irresistible, she wants to play with it).
  4. Missed the 8th mass of "misa de galo" (still lucky, based on our schedule at the office I was supposed to be absent from the dawn mass for two days but my colleague had to be home on 25th decided to swap skeds).
  5. Worst, spent Christmas eve at work.

Thanks for reading this entry, I know we can stay happy always knowing and counting our blessings. Christmas is everyday with those who are happy knowing the love of Christ!

Sunday, December 04, 2005

What Kristine Roa Said...

I don't really know her (maybe some of you knows her),guess she's also from Cagayan de Oro City like me. She left this comment in my blog...

Kristine Roa said...
Are you sick? Or are you just plain KSP *kulang sa pakog*?

Those pictures are offensive. These people are OUR friends, and you can rant to be about freedom of expressing yourself in your blog but I swear to GOD -- it just goes to show how you lack attention. DOn't you have friends?

Whatta loser.

1:47 AM, December 04, 2005

I appreciate it Kristine that: (1)you care, for the persons involved were your friends, (2)you think those pictures are offensive, (3)you know something about freedom of expression, bloggers do, and most of all (4)by faith you know GOD!

Maybe I am sick, maybe I am KSP, but only GOD knows who we really are. You will know me better than blogging someday. But let me tell you, I hate retaliating with unkind words,you see I am human being with brains and soul to keep. I have to be kind, not to please everyone, but to please my GOD.

Those links were sent to me via email, from a friend who works abroad. YES, I have friends too just like you. I made links to those pictures out of a friend's request. YES, the truth is that everybody (in our office and my friends) have seen the XU scandal video and maybe I was the last one who received an email with links to those pictures.

I have not seen nor planned to view that video, its my prerogative. For me to have seen those pictures is enough. But Kristine, here's a deal: If you can ask everyone (those who have seen the XU scandal video, here and abroad, a lot of them maybe 1%, hehehe!) to send me a request to remove the links to those pictures, I swear to you I'll grant your request.

XU Scandal VCD selling like hot cakes
What Kristine said was absolutely appreciated. To Kristine Roa: I would like to thank you for your time visiting my blog. I am happy to see you leaving comments like this. It lets me know you are there, and that I have to write something for you guys to read.

If you think I made a great deal, tell your friends, and why don't you leave comments like that also?

Friday, December 02, 2005

Mindanao Earthquake

As promised, I have to give you an update report about the earthquake experience:

Mindanao was hit by earthquake with intensity 5, an aftershook in Cagayan de Oro at intensity 2.

The good news: No damages were reported, thanks GOD!

Thursday, December 01, 2005

The Earthquake Experience

Oh my GOD, I was about to publish this blog when I accidentally erased everything I started. Well I have no choice but to write again!
Today 1:05 I was shaken by the earthquake with a still unknown intensity. I panicked because I started thinking about those quakes on tv. Its very scary specially that intensity 7 that hit Baguio way back in my elementary years. It started to run in my mind, not to mention its aftershock. I figured out the recent tsunami experienced in South Asia, too bad.
Working alone inside this room at night time would make you think about alot of scary things (our shifting schedule for 24X7 operation:6am-2pm,2-10pm,10pm-6am). And with that longer than 2minutes earthquake, who won't panic? I called an operator who is situated in another room in this building, then calm me down. We were both in the state of getting out of the building, so afraid what will happen next. We just laughed at our selves then and thanked God we were safe when the earthquake fade away.
I'll update this blog for the intesity and (I hope not so bad) aftershock if any.

Expect the Unexpected

Hi Grace, I might lighten up your mind in some ways or ruin your day hehehe.

Seriously:I believe guys are just like that, they can hardly express who they are and what they feel. I know you are special to him, but sometimes only maturity (according to one priest, maturity means, accepting when your bf/hubby/someone is not on time, accepting someone who gossips/etc.) can make you accept the person's attitude/character. If you think you can't handle this kind of thing, you better stop reading those book about divorce, it makes you think about it every now and then. Divorce is not good about saving the family,yes books can help us in someways. But this time I think you are too afraid that one of those stories you read might happen to you. It happened to someone I know too. If your hubby won't talk to you, then take time to talk to him, swallow you pride. PRIDE is the very thing that can ruin relationships while communication is the best. You are never alone, all the time God is with you, reason enough for you to count on your blessings and be happy. I know you are homesick and tired and affected with your reading materials, but never think about divorce-you are simple paranoid, am sorry that was my impression. I am single I know its easier said than done. But I know what you are experiencing right now facts of life, still in the adjustment period of marriage. I know some couples fight because all of us really are different, we think differently-we are UNIQUE. So no need to blame on ethnicity etc, face you fear and admit to your self that you need prayers and reflections. I know you have the best books, but I suggest you have the BIBLE. Think of happy moments and think about Pristine growing-up with a happy family. It takes two to tango, ask your hubby to make you family life happier by spending time praying together. The family that prays together stays together.

This was a comment I posted to my friends blog last November29. I know am ignorant about marriage and so with life. But the truth is I never meant to ruin my friend's day, not to anyone. I took the courage to write that comment because I thought I can help her and maybe others. I was not really expecting her negative interpretations.

Her criticism about me: I agree am single without any knowledge about marriage life can easily "swallow my pride and communicate", I know its easier said than done. This is true for all ages hehehe but I don't mean I won't get hurt if ever I have a husband soon in my life and would ignore me and my child. But I cannot take that reason "ignoring me&my child" not to communicate anyway, but the we can never tell what's next in this life.

Ethnicity/Divorce/Paranoid: I mentioned this because I was reading alot JAPS thing in her blog, that I thought she was referring to ethnicity, that Filipino-Japanese differences. Divorce was also mentioned in her blogs, that I panicked because she might be paranoid about what she's reading. Maybe I was paranoid at that time, I was just reading between the lines.

Maturity/Martyrdom: She decided to write a blog about this too and the priest. What I said about maturity does not mean that we accept what is wrong-sinful deeds, but accept that person as well as the character. We can leave the person if he remains sinful and bad, I did not mean to be a
martyr. I was not questioning her faith or with anyone. I respect everybody's prerogative about religion and so on and so forth. But isn't it true we need prayers and reflections?

As a Roman Catholic, only God knows what kind of a Christian I am. When I go to church, I never meant to judge anyone, who is giving out the homily. Take for instance, you attend a seminar about this new technology thing. You then happen to know that the speaker failed all his subjects in college, was drug addict and pusher,etc. How will you learn from him if you think about that bad background, and not his background with that new technology thing?

When I wrote a comment, I viewed it in two prospective. I expected that she might might become enlightened or I ruin her day. The unexpected was her two blogs out of my longest comment ever in the world history. My apology if my comment really sound very annoying, I know it is for her. Peace na ta Grace ha?

I hope did I great job with blogging, I meant to enlighten you guys, and not ruin to your day!

Saturday, November 05, 2005

What does a SCANDAL mean?

What does a SCANDAL mean?

Here in Cagayan de Oro City, the city of Golden Friendship, several CD copies of different scandals were released. There was the Liceo Scandal, Bulua Scandal and recently the XU Scandal. They call it a scandal because of the obvious pronographic sex video. Others made sex video for fun and remembrance. But some made it for money making. You can try to check about the XU scandal thing. I don't know how these scandals can help our economy grow. But right now I just want to share something about the word: SCANDAL and some pictures too.

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According to St. Thomas (II-II, Q. liii, a. 1) scandal is a word or action evil in itself, which occasions another's spiritual ruin. It is a word or action, that is either an external act—for an internal act can have no influence on the conduct of another—or the omission of an external act, because to omit what one should do is equivalent to doing what is forbidden; it must be evil in itself, or in appearance; this is the interpretation of the words of St. Thomas: minus rectum. It is not the physical cause of a neighbor's sin, but only the moral cause, or occasion; further, this moral causality may be understood in a strict sense, as when one orders, requests, or advises another to commit the sin (this is strictly inductive scandal, which some call co-operatlon in a broad sense), or in a large sense, as when a person without being directly concerned in the sin nevertheless exercises a certain influence on the sin of his neighbor, e.g. by committing such a sin in his presence (this is inductive scandal in a broad sense). For scandal to exist it is therefore essential and sufficient, with regard to the nature of the act and the circumstances under which it takes place, that it be of a nature to induce sin in another; consequently it is not necessary that the neighbour should actually fall into sin; and on the other hand, for scandal strictly so-called, it is not enough that a neighbour take occasion to do evil from a word or action which is not a subject of scandal and exercises no influence on his action; it must be a cause of spiritual ruin, that is of sin, consequently that is not scandal which merely dissuades the neighbour from a more perfect act, as for instance, prayer, the practice of the Evangelical virtues, the more frequent use of the sacraments, etc. Still less can that be considered scandal, which only arouses comment, indignation, horror etc., for instance blasphemy committed in the presence of a priest or of a religious; it is true that the act arouses indignation and in common parlance it is often called scandalous, but this way of speaking is inaccurate, and in strictly theological terminology it is not the sin of scandal. Hence scandal is in itself an evil act, at least in appearance, and as such it exercises on the will of another an influence more or less great which induces to sin. Furthermore, when the action from which another takes occasion of sin is not bad, either in itself or in appearance, it may violate charity (see below), but strictly speaking it is not the sin of scandal. However, some authorities understanding the word scandal in a wider sense include in it this case

(1) Scandal is divided into active and passive. Active scandal is that which has been defined above; passive scandal is the sin which another commits in consequence of active scandal. Passive scandal is called scandal given (scandalum datum), when the act of the scandalizer is of a nature to occasion it; and scandal received (acceptum), when the action of the one who scandalizes is due solely to ignorance or weakness—this is scandal of the weak (infirmorum),—or to malice and evil inclinations—this is pharisaical scandal, which was that of the Pharisees with regard to the words and actions of Christ.

(2) Active scandal is direct when he who commits it has the intention of inducing another to sin; such is the sin of one who solicits another to the crime of adultery, theft etc. If one prevails upon another to commit the sin not only because of an advantage or pleasure believed to accrue therefrom but chiefly because of the sin itself, because it is an offence to God or the ruin of a neighbor's soul, direct scandal is called by the expressive name of diabolical scandal. On the other hand scandal is only indirect when without the intention to cause another to fall into sin we say a word or perform a deed which is for him an occasion of sin

(1) That active scandal is a mortal sin Christ Himself has taught (Matthew 18:6 sqq.) and reason makes evident. If charity obliges us to assist our neighbor's temporal and spiritual necessities (see ALMS; CORRECTION) it obliges us still more strongly not to be to him a cause of sin or spiritual ruin. Hence it follows that every sin of scandal is contrary to charity.

Moreover (2) direct scandal is obviously contrary to the virtue against which another is induced to sin; in fact every virtue forbids not only its violation by ourselves but also that we should desire its violation by another.

(3) Indirect scandal is also contrary to charity (see above); but is it also opposed to the virtue violated by another? St. Alphonsus answers in the affirmative; others, and this seems the true opinion, deny this. In fact no one has hitherto proved this species of malice, and those who admit it are not consistent with themselves, for they should also maintain, which no one does, that anyone who is indirectly the cause of an injustice by another is also bound to restitution; what is true of justice should hold good for the other virtues.

The question remains: When is there a sin of scandal? for it is obvious not all who an occasion of sin to others are thereby guilty.

(1) As a general rule the sin of scandal exists when one directly induces another to do a thing which he cannot do without sin, either formal or material, e.g. by soliciting a person to perjury, drunkenness, sins of the flesh, etc., even though the person induced to this act is habitually or at the time disposed to commit it. It is otherwise when the thing we ask is good or indifferent; this may be done without scandal and without sin, when there is a just cause or serious reason for asking it; even though one foresees that the other will probably sin in granting it; thus for the common weal a judge may demand an oath even from those who will probably commit perjury; one who has need of money and who cannot find anyone who will lend to him may have recourse to an usurer although he foresees that the latter will exact exorbitant and unjust interest, etc. The thing asked must be without sin either formal or material because it is not allowed to profit by the ignorance of another to induce him to commit what is forbidden, to cause a child to utter blasphemies, to induce someone who is unaware of the precept of the Church to eat flesh on a fast day and so on. In fact in all these cases the sin is to be ascribed to the person who endeavors to cause it This is the general rule, but here the question arises, may one advise another bent on committing a great crime to be satisfied instead with doing something less evil? This question is much discussed, but the opinion which considers such a course justifiable is probable and may be followed in practice. In fact the advice thus given is not properly speaking advice to do evil but to do a lesser evil or rather not to do the greater evil which a man intends to commit; therefore some writers exact that the words or circumstances must demonstrate that one advises the evil solely as the lesser evil; others, however, consider it sufficient that such be the intention, even when not made manifest, of the person who gives the advice. Nevertheless, if a man had decided to do an injury to a certain person one could not—unless in exceptional circumstances—induce him to do a lesser injury to any other person.

(2) He is guilty of the sin of scandal who without positively pledging or inducing to sin nevertheless performs an act evil in itself which will be an occasion of sin to another. The same must be said when the act is evil only in appearance, unless there be sufficient reason to act and to permit the fault of another Thus those who blaspheme before others when they foresee that their example will cause the latter to blaspheme are guilty of scandal; so also those who attack religion or morals, hold immoral conversation, sing immoral songs or (by their behaviour dress, writings etc.) offend against the laws of decency and modesty, when they foresee, as is usual, that those who see, hear, or read will be impelled to sin.

(3) To prevent another's sin one may even be bound to forego an act which is sinful neither in itself nor in appearance, but which is nevertheless the occasion of sin to another, unless there be sufficient reason to act otherwise. It has already been shown that when there is a just cause we may ask of another a thing which he can do without sin although we may foresee that he will not do it without fault. Likewise we are not bound to be disturbed by pharisaical scandal, which may follow an action we perform; but we must avoid scandalizing the weak if we can do so easily. The application of these principles depends on concrete circumstances, which vary with each case; however, the following general rules may be given:
To prevent scandalizing another we must never transgress the negative precepts of the natural law, nor its positive precepts in cases where they truly bind; thus it is not permitted to lie to prevent a mortal sin, neither can one neglect receiving baptism to avoid the blasphemies of one's parents.
It is not permitted to pass over any precept whatever in order to prevent pharisaical scandal, but we may and even should, in special cases and for one or two occasions, pass over a precept whether Divine or human, to avoid scandalizing the weak.
We should, to avoid scandal, forego good or indifferent works which are not of precept, if we can do so without great inconvenience.
Finally, to prevent the scandal of the weak we are sometimes obliged to sacrifice some temporal good of less importance, but we are not bound to do this when the goods are of greater importance.

Friday, November 04, 2005

Love&Letting Go:Sharing

When you think of your past love,
you may view it as a failure.
But when you find a new love,
you view the past as a teacher.
In the game of love, it
doesn't really matter who won or who lost.
What is important is you know when
to hold on and when to let go!

You know you really love someone when you
want him or her to be happy, even if his or her
happiness means that you're not part of it.

Everything happens for the best. If the person
you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to
love someone else again, for you'll never know
unless you give it a try. You'll never love a person
you love unless you risk for love. Love strives in
hurting. If you don't get hurt, you don't learn
how to love.

Love doesn't hurt all the time, though the hurting
is still there to test you and to help you grow. Don't

find love, let love find you. That's why it's called
falling in love because you don't force yourself to
fall. You just fall. You cannot finish a book without
closing its chapters. If you want to go on, then you
have to leave the past as you turn the pages.

Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won
by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which
we are always learning, discovering and growing.

The greatest irony of love is letting go when you
need to hold on and holding on when you need to
let go. We lose someone we love only when we
are destined to find someone else who can love
us even more than we can love ourselves.

On falling out of love, take some time to heal
and then get back on the horse. But don't ever
make the same mistake of riding the same one
that threw you the first time.

To love is to risk rejections; to live is to risk
dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must
be taken because the greatest hazard in life
is risking nothing!

To reach for another is to risk involvement, to
expose your feelings is to expose your true self; to
love is to risk not to be loved in return.

How to define love: fall but do not stumble, be
constant but not too persistent, share and never
be unfair, understand and try not to demand, hurt
but never keep the pain. Love is like a knife. It can
stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images
into the soul that always last for a lifetime.

Love is supposed to be the most wonderful
feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and
strength. But sometimes the things that give you
joy can also hurt you in the end.

Loving people means giving them the freedom
that they choose to be and where they choose to
be. For all the heartaches and the tears, for
gloomy days and fruitless years, you should give
thanks, for you know, that these were the things
which helped you grow.

Loving someone means giving him the freedom
to find his way, whether it leads towards you or
away from you. Love is a painful risk to take but
the risk must be taken no matter how scary or
painful, for only then you'll experience the fullness
of humanity and that is love.

Only love can hurt your heart, fill you with desire
and tear you apart. Only love can make you cry
and only love knows why. If you're not ready to cry,
if you're not ready to take the risk, if you're not
ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall
in love.

There was a time in our lives when we became
afraid to fall in love because every time we do, we
get hurt, then I figured that's why it's called
falling in love. When you decide to love, allow it to
grow. When you promise to love, refuse to let it die!

Tuesday, November 01, 2005

All Saints-Days today!

I have to start it with a mass at 6AM St. Joseph Chapel in Patag near our place.

Monday, October 31, 2005

Blog by Beauty

I want to start blogging now. I dont really know if you will mind BEAUTY, but I do. I demand my cute nephews and neice to call me "Tita Beauty".

Please don't tell me I'm letting them tell a lie. I know that physically I'm not as beautiful as one of the Miss Universe. But I know for sure GOD made us all beautiful, that I want my "pamangkins" to note. I am justified?

When I went online and someone called me "beauty" is where it all started. But I am not really sure if he meant beauty not beast, I don't mind at all. He also calls my friend "heart", he said she had a long nice hair and looks like Heart Evangelista. He is just fun calling names for his chatmates, maybe as not to get in trouble with his wife who is working abroad.

So what does my friends call me aside from BEAUTY? Most of my friends call me Tisay, Thess, Teray, Tere, Tata and most of all MADAM. Names just evolved thru time (mainly contributed by our age/friends/environment/etc). Maybe when I get older, I would hear my neighbors giving me another name. Who knows?

If its BEAUTY don't know yet! Anyway, thanks for reading and may GOD bless us all.